— Me, just now.
Anonymous asked: Don't skinny shame! Body positive babe, for all body shapes. Just because someone's "hourglass shaped and their thighs don't touch" doesn't diminish their problems or insecurities. Stay positive, please! ❤️
Dear god, I’m so bored of this conversation. Fat people literally cannot talk about being sick of how they’re treated without someone crying BUT WHAT ABOUT THE THIN PEOPLE???? I’m so tired of conversations about thin privilege that revolve around being careful what you say about thin bodies!
I did not, at any point, infer or outright say anything that referred to thin bodies the way people constantly refer to fat bodies. I did not call them ugly or shameful or disgusting or unworthy or unhealthy or immoral. I did not, and would not, ever use that language to describe any body.
To shame someone’s body is to make them feel as though it’s wrong. To make them feel as though their body does not deserve to be. Me saying that thin people do not experience the systemic oppression that fat bodies do is not shaming. Stop throwing that word around. Thin people are not shamed on a systemic level for their bodies.
Anyone can have insecurities, of course. But fat people’s insecurities are constantly being reinforced by toxic messages. Now, if you want to get nuanced and talk about the reasons why a lot of people experience insecurity based on messages from our societies, let’s talk about how body insecurities are often tied up with misogyny and Eurocentric beauty ideals; with ableism and classism and transmisogyny and gender roles.
Body posi enough for you now babe?! ♥♥♥
In some ways, the term “pansexual” came out of biphobia and a need to stipulate that one was not transphobic. If you take the binary view of “bisexual,” then a sexuality specific to an attraction to men and women could be seen as being noninclusive of transgender men and women. On the other hand, transgender men and women want to (and should) be seen as simply men and women, meaning that they would/should be included in that very binary; not including them tends to be much more phobic and noninclusive.
Then there is the thought that the binary view of bisexuality can be seen as phobic of anyone who identifies as genderqueer, or somewhere along the gender and sexuality spectrum, not identifying as male or female, man or woman. But, as I mentioned before, the true definition of “bisexual” is being attracted to those who are the same as me and those who are different from me, encompassing all genders and identities. The often-repeated argument that “bi means two” ignores a simple fact: “Same” and “different” are, indeed, two groups."
via The Bad ‘B’ Word: A Need for Bisexual Acceptance